Happy September, PRIM babes!
This month is all about being fearless.
Some of you may remember last year, around this time, I had lost my beloved fur baby, Bauer. What I may not have been so expressive of is the loss of loved ones that followed closely after, and the resulting depression I fell into. Looking back now, I clearly was not myself… and what’s scary is that no one really knew, except maybe my husband Scott. Over the summer, we talked a lot about mental health, and with the anniversary of these tragedies approaching, I can’t help but be taken back to that same heavy feeling.
Part of what was weighing me down so much was fear: fear of my own immortality, fear that I might lose more loved ones, and fear that if I did they might not know how much they truly mean to me. It was a difficult time in my life but a necessary reality check for setting my priorities straight. But as a strong fearless leader (or at least who I want and try to be), I decided to start a conversation with my family, team and all of you! Life is hard, challenging… We get thrown so much shit every day, and it’s hard to rise above and stay positive.
I don’t want to live with any regrets. I want to be the best version of myself every day. I want Scott to know how much I love him and I want to be the best wife I can be. I want to speak nicer, be more caring and available, spend more time with family, and cherish every. single. day. I want to be a leader my team can looks up to, and not just because Im tall, and I want to inspire them every. single. day. I learned that everyone handles death differently, and the best thing we can do is be there for one another. Even if you don’t know what to say, just be there. Let the people in your life know you care. Encourage them, build them up. I’m learning how to slow down, to be aware of who needs me—including (and especially) myself. If I need to take time off, it’s ok! I shouldn’t feel guilty! I know the stores are in capable hands.
One thing I always try to instill in my team is confidence—the #1 accessory we want everyone to wear! If we feel beautiful or even hear we look beautiful, we stand a little taller, our confidence grows. That’s the world I want to live in, that I want for my tribe. I’m not saying this is the cure to mental heath, but I do think positive vibes is one hell of a start!
And speaking of positive vibes, I recently had the opportunity to meet a new jewelry artist who inspired me greatly. When speaking to her, I was captivated by her energy and positive outlook. I am so thrilled to introduce our #GirlCrush of the month, Marrin Costello! Marrin is a fearless boss, and the perfect babe to help us introduce our relaunched blog. Stay tuned for our Q&A with the inspiring entrepreneur, and shop her stunning pieces in stores and online now!
Read on to see what fearlessness means to the other members of our tribe:
Computer Katie: I just got back from a service trip in Guatemala. I was scared about traveling to a country I knew little about for a lot of reasons (namely, unwarranted fears I had picked up from my family), but my scariest moment of the trip was jumping off a steep cliff into Lake Atitlan. The cliff was more than 200 feet tall. Somehow, I worked up the courage to jump, but what was most surprising to me is that the fear didn’t go away after I did it. I was still terrified of jumping again. I don’t believe in the absence of fear. I believe in feeling the fear, and doing it anyway.
Lauren (P-town): Being fearless, to me, means staying strong in what you believe in and portraying yourself as you believe, no matter that people say.
Heather (POP): Fearlessness, to me, is all about mindset. It’s adopting a growth mindset over a fixed or limiting mindset, then putting that into practice DAILY, continually stepping out of comfort zones, choosing growth. Once we become fearless, life becomes limitless!
Jenna (LG): To me, the word fearless means not being afraid of regretting anything. It means taking that leap of faith and not worrying about the repercussions. Fearless is having the courage to do anything when you set your mind to it. Anyone can be fearless, you just have to believe in yourself and not stress over what has not happened yet. It may sound scary, but being fearless is not supposed to be easy. It is a process of living a lifestyle with no regrets. I strive to be fearless in everything I do.
Moon (LG): What being fearless means to me is always doing the things that scare me the most. Usually facing your fears will produce an amazing miracle or at least a fun internal change in your beautiful self, going after your biggest dreams and not allowing people to make you feel less than you’re worth or that you aren’t capable of accomplishing anything you want. Each time I make a major move or a big change, I am taking a chance to have courage in the face of my fears. Being fearless is following your heart because it isn’t as logical as your mind, trusting your intuition, quieting the constant mind and just listening.
Irlanda (P-town): I’m not sure that I’ve ever actually been “fearless.” I have always felt some level of fear when doing something big or new. I think it’s courage that has gotten me through that fear, though. Knowing that what’s on the other side of fear is worth obtaining and having the courage to push through or put up a good fight with my insecurities is what fearlessness means to me.
Kandace (POP): To me, living fearlessly is not letting your fears keep you from doing what you want to do. Just go for it; you’ll end up feeling fearless afterwards, even if you didn’t feel that way beforehand!
Keep the conversation going: Tell us what fearlessness means to you in the comments below—or when you come visit us in stores!
XO PRIM babes,