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This is What Fearlessness Means to Us

September 4, 2018

Happy September, PRIM babes!

This month is all about being fearless.

Some of you may remember last year, around this time, I had lost my beloved fur baby, Bauer. What I may not have been so expressive of is the loss of loved ones that followed closely after, and the resulting depression I fell into. Looking back now, I clearly was not myself… and what’s scary is that no one really knew, except maybe my husband Scott. Over the summer, we talked a lot about mental health, and with the anniversary of these tragedies approaching, I can’t help but be taken back to that same heavy feeling.

Part of what was weighing me down so much was fear: fear of my own immortality, fear that I might lose more loved ones, and fear that if I did they might not know how much they truly mean to me. It was a difficult time in my life but a necessary reality check for setting my priorities straight. But as a strong fearless leader (or at least who I want and try to be), I decided to start a conversation with my family, team and all of you! Life is hard, challenging… We get thrown so much shit every day, and it’s hard to rise above and stay positive.

I don’t want to live with any regrets. I want to be the best version of myself every day. I want Scott to know how much I love him and I want to be the best wife I can be.  I want to speak nicer, be more caring and available, spend more time with family, and cherish every. single. day. I want to be a leader my team can looks up to, and not just because Im tall, and I want to inspire them every. single. day. I learned that everyone handles death differently, and the best thing we can do is be there for one another. Even if you don’t know what to say, just be there. Let the people in your life know you care. Encourage them, build them up. I’m learning how to slow down, to be aware of who needs me—including (and especially) myself. If I need to take time off, it’s ok! I shouldn’t feel guilty! I know the stores are in capable hands.

One thing I always try to instill in my team is confidence—the #1 accessory we want everyone to wear! If we feel beautiful or even hear we look beautiful, we stand a little taller, our confidence grows. That’s the world I want to live in, that I want for my tribe. I’m not saying this is the cure to mental heath, but I do think positive vibes is one hell of a start!

And speaking of positive vibes, I recently had the opportunity to meet a new jewelry artist who inspired me greatly. When speaking to her, I was captivated by her energy and positive outlook. I am so thrilled to introduce our #GirlCrush of the month, Marrin Costello! Marrin is a fearless boss, and the perfect babe to help us introduce our relaunched blog. Stay tuned for our Q&A with the inspiring entrepreneur, and shop her stunning pieces in stores and online now!

Read on to see what fearlessness means to the other members of our tribe:

Computer Katie: I just got back from a service trip in Guatemala. I was scared about traveling to a country I knew little about for a lot of reasons (namely, unwarranted fears I had picked up from my family), but my scariest moment of the trip was jumping off a steep cliff into Lake Atitlan. The cliff was more than 200 feet tall. Somehow, I worked up the courage to jump, but what was most surprising to me is that the fear didn’t go away after I did it. I was still terrified of jumping again. I don’t believe in the absence of fear. I believe in feeling the fear, and doing it anyway.

Lauren (P-town): Being fearless, to me, means staying strong in what you believe in and portraying yourself as you believe, no matter that people say.

Heather (POP): Fearlessness, to me, is all about mindset. It’s adopting a growth mindset over a fixed or limiting mindset, then putting that into practice DAILY, continually stepping out of comfort zones, choosing growth. Once we become fearless, life becomes limitless!

Jenna (LG): To me, the word fearless means not being afraid of regretting anything. It means taking that leap of faith and not worrying about the repercussions. Fearless is having the courage to do anything when you set your mind to it. Anyone can be fearless, you just have to believe in yourself and not stress over what has not happened yet. It may sound scary, but being fearless is not supposed to be easy. It is a process of living a lifestyle with no regrets. I strive to be fearless in everything I do.

Moon (LG): What being fearless means to me is always doing the things that scare me the most. Usually facing your fears will produce an amazing miracle or at least a fun internal change in your beautiful self, going after your biggest dreams and not allowing people to make you feel less than you’re worth or that you aren’t capable of accomplishing anything you want. Each time I make a major move or a big change, I am taking a chance to have courage in the face of my fears. Being fearless is following your heart because it isn’t as logical as your mind, trusting your intuition, quieting the constant mind and just listening.

Irlanda (P-town): I’m not sure that I’ve ever actually been “fearless.” I have always felt some level of fear when doing something big or new. I think it’s courage that has gotten me through that fear, though. Knowing that what’s on the other side of fear is worth obtaining and having the courage to push through or put up a good fight with my insecurities is what fearlessness means to me.

Kandace (POP): To me, living fearlessly is not letting your fears keep you from doing what you want to do. Just go for it; you’ll end up feeling fearless afterwards, even if you didn’t feel that way beforehand!

Keep the conversation going: Tell us what fearlessness means to you in the comments below—or when you come visit us in stores!

XO PRIM babes,
Missy

Our Summer Yoga and Wellness Tips

June 26, 2018

There are 92 days of summer. Days are longer this time of year than in any other season. We just celebrated the summer solstice, which marks the halfway point of the year. In yogic terms, this would be the time to pause between your inhale and exhale. A time to reflect on the intentions you set for yourself, where you are on the path to achieving your goals. Start to bring awareness to how far you’ve come and how far you have left to go. Are you still aligned with what you want to manifest in your life, or do you need to pivot to get back on track? Do you still want that dream you’ve been chasing, or have your needs changed? If you haven’t reached this goal, are there things you need to let go of in order to move forward? If you’ve gotten what you wanted, does it bring you joy?

While this is the time to soak up the sun, to feel illuminated, lit up, energized and shine brightly, this is also the time that a lot of resistance can start to show up. Think about it: The closer the sun gets to you, the bigger your shadow gets. Your shadow canbe anything that you are trying to hide or repress, feelings or situations that you are not wanting to deal with. What are the aspects of yourself that you need to shine a light on, that need your attention? Now think about the moon: It is always full, even though we only see parts of it as it goes through its phases. We are all like the moon: always full, even though we don’t always feel whole. But it’s only when we accept all the parts of ourselves—even the parts we don’t want to be illuminated—that we can step into our shining wholeness.

Just like in yoga, it’s time to listen to your body. Do you need to push yourself to move more, or can you ease up and be more gentle with yourself? As we continue to talk about mental health, we realize that, in order to have a real impact, we need to start from within. With all that is going on in the world, there is always room for us to be kinder to ourselves. Self-care is no longer an occasional luxury but a non-negotiable we must carve out the time for.

This Sunday, we will be offering two very special sunrise-to-sunset yoga classes, starting in the morning at our Pleasanton location (with me at 9AM!) and ending at our Los Gatos store (with my friend Liisa, who I trained with and is a Crisis Text Line volunteer, at 5PM). We will also be celebrating the launch of All Fenix’s latest collection all day—plus giving away special fitness gifts to guests who spend over $150.

“We wanted to create an activewear label that represented all women: those who are active and those who want to be active; those who want to live healthier lives and are ready to kick start that journey. That’s where the PHOENIX comes in: a mythical bird that represents rebirth and rejuvenation. Synonymous with energy and activity, we felt the name truly embodied our brand. Why spell it Fenix? We wanted to recreate it and make it our own.” –All Fenix founders

In addition to a nourishing, full-body workout, treat yourselves to fashion (and function!)-forward activewear. As we’ve already gushed, there is so much we love about this Australian activewear line—the tech-savvy fabrics as well as chic prints and detailing, to name a few. But our workout wardrobe always stays ahead of the curve, thanks to our opposite seasons. Shop the latest styles for fall—in stores now!—plus save on summer-ready styles, which are already marked down. Hope to see you there!

If you can’t make it to the event, shop the latest styles online.

XO PRIM babes,
Computer Katie


P.S. Thank you so much to everyone that came out to our Backyard SALE last weekend. We exceeded our goal of $1000 to donate to Crisis Text Line!